Golf is an old man’s game (in Silicon Valley at least)
It’s different here. Yes it’s not perfect, but it is so different. We don’t care if Mark Zuckerberg wears a hoodie, men don’t wear ties here and the last point in Julie Steinberg’s recent WSJ article on the Nine Rules Women Must Follow To Get Ahead — that as a woman you need to “Dress well and play golf” is just out of touch.
Successful young people (men and women) in Silicon Valley certainly don’t need to play golf here to get ahead.
In 25 years of being a high tech exec I have played golf only once – and then it was only because the sales team begged me to – and they hired a pro to play with me so all I did was putt (I think they didn’t want me to slow them down!). I have never, ever felt I needed to play golf to get ahead. Even with the older golf playing execs I worked for I found they still liked to go out for a drink or a great meal to bond.
In today’s Silicon Valley the bonding hobbies are younger men’s hobbies. You are more likely to be bonding over the benefits of a titanium racing bike frame than over titanium clubs. You may well want to be able to discuss fine red wine. You will definitely need to be able to bond over tech gadgets and geek out on how many LEDs are in the new iPad.
And what I find so exciting about the under 35 generation here is that you are also very likely to bond over family. What little Katie is doing in school, where little Tommie likes to go camping. I see a generation of young nerds coming up who, while they still outnumber the girls 4 to 1, are very much more engaged in their homes, their families and their outdoor hobbies than the prior generation of executives where the old boys club and golf are much more prevalent.
So don’t pay attention to old school advice about having to play golf. Instead make sure you work hard, impact the business and either be the executive, or understand the next generation of execs coming up because they are the future.
But note: I have a few girlfriends who love golf – now that’s a good reason to play!
I totally agree that there has been a shift in the 'bonding' hobbies in the valley. While certainly drinking and going out will continue to be part of the younger set, i have seen a shift as we become parents, move into more family oriented neighborhood, and buy accessories for our fancy bikes to chart our kids around.
Over a year ago i bought a domain name – with the geeks with kids idea in mind. i need to revisit those ideas!
on the golf part- i had someone years ago tell me that i had to learn golf if i wanted to make it big in the corporate world. I moved to San Fran instead- good move on my part for multiple reasons!
Disclaimer: Penny's my boss 😉